I have stopped and started this blog now I don't know how many times. It seems I try to veer from writing blogs from the hospital due to the whole emotional side of things. Although they make the best blogs because I guess half the time if you are on medication, you don't know what you write. So I have pondered all weekend what to write about. And, except for the whole kidney deal, life was going pretty well. So finally I would be able to write about something light hearted and not be such an emotional mess and have yet another blog be just depressing. To my faithful readers, I am sorry. To my new readers, warning, most of these are not happy.
There are so many different reasons to blog. you can look up topics, give information, talk about politics, weddings, pregnancies... and the list goes on. So why do I write? I write because I can. I express myself much better through words than anything else. And at least when you write, you can go back and take back something you had "said". Well things changed today, so this blog now becomes another emotional blog. Which brings me back to my original question.. why do I write? Its simple. To help people. With all of the challenges I have faced, I figured if I can get through them I can at least share what I have done. Now don't get me wrong, its not like something happens and I write you and tell you how strong I am coming out of it. I definitely break. And I break hard. And why stop writing now? It may get some personal but I get such positive feedback that I feel like I need to keep going. Which brings me to why I am writing now.
Like I mentioned above, most of the time I write, the situation has already happened and its been a while. But not now. If you wanna know what happens when I break, well Im experiencing it right now. I am currently in the hospital facing yet another bad infection and having tests ran tomorrow to determine whether my kidney has to come out. But I was handling every thing just fine. That was until today. So starts my emotional drain of trying to write this without falling apart.
About a month ago, my friend made me put a online dating site to the test. It was dumb but I did it. I had a promo code for a free month so I thought why not. It wasn't like I was going to full force into this and didn't expect anything from it. Then it happened. My first email back from a really nice guy. So for the last weeks or so, we have been hanging out. And its been nice. We were building a friendship and as of Friday we had discussed that we still liked each other and were on the same page as far as we wanted to keep it going. I was so happy. He was so different than me but he was teaching me things about myself that I never knew existed. And then I get a , I mean THE text. The text that nobody wants. You can guess what it said, but I will just say, we are through. What bothers me so much is that he just decided over the weekend. He seem to put words into my mouth saying Im not what I needed and that he wasn't what I was looking for. Well no, he wasn't but he became someone I wanted. He said everything right and made me feel so giddy and happy inside. And now this?
As girls, I think we have seen so many romantic movies, tv shows, music etc.. that some times we think life is going to be that way. If this were a movie, he would come through the door and take things back or at least say goodbye and let me say what I need to say. But its not. But I hang on this hope even if its the smallest hopes of hopes. Maybe space and time is what he needed. Who knows? All I know is that, yet again, I got dealt a bad hand. He was nice and such a gentleman. But in 2 days this all changed. Im not gonna lie, I keep waiting for him to walk through the door or to text or to call. And thats what hurts the most. Every minute that ticks by , you just lose hope. Then I start to wonder, and question. Why? I mean for anyone who knows me, can probably understand that I write this at this moment, Im an emotional wreck. Yes I only knew him for a month but when you think you have something and it gets ripped from you without any warning. ( Sound familiar? ) It HURTS. The only thing I just wished was he would have let me talk to him in person or at least over the phone. I know we aren't supposed to show weakness but I can't help it. Part of me wants him to hurt as well. So I can't write you now and say I have learned anything from this because I haven't. And the excuses are always the same. I just wish for once, I was heard. I don't understand how people make up their mind without taking through it with whoever.
So right now, I don't feel very strong. I feel like I wanna hit him and at the same time hug him. The fact that I am never going to see him again kills me.
I took a lot into consideration after I told him I wanted to keep going on. I am not going to waste anyones time just because I don't want to be lonely. But it wasn't that at all. And no matter what I tried to say, it was like it was going in one ear and out the other. These past 4 weeks I have smiled and laughed more than I have in a long time.
Im sure, no I know, Im not the only one to have her heart broken more than once but I am a little confused on why Im letting losing him get to me so badly. So I guess this is gonna be a horrible night. I am trying not to break down but its pointless. Im tired of being sick, Im tired of not getting what I want. For once I had it. An amazing guy who opened the door for me and was so polite. And made me smile and laugh. I want to be mad. Its easier and easier to hide as well.
What do I do now? I know what I would tell people but Im gonna be honest. Im gonna wait for the phone to ring. Im gonna wait for a text. Im gonna wait for him to come see me. And Im gonna wait for a long time. Yes part of me is mad. All I asked was 5 minutes for me to say what I needed to say but he made the decision for both of us. Do girls not get heard anymore?
All I know, is Im not that strong girl right now. And I just want to curl up and make it go away. If it were only that simple and easy.
And to that guy : Thanks for the past 4 months. I know we could have something special but now we both are left with the what if's. If you would have just listened to me or talked to me, this could have gone a whole different way. Or even with the same outcome but I would have not been the emotional wreck I am. I was content with just hanging out. You were all I needed. Nothing more, nothing less.
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